The Importance Of Accountability In Your Life...
Watch this video about the reason why we all need accountability...



The Reason We Need Someone Else...
You NEED another person to hold you accountable for your promises and to watch your progress in accomplishing those promises. Without accountability, your chance of fulfilling any big promise or goal is very slim.

Your Mind vs. Reality
Human beings have the unusual ability to make things in reality match what is going on in the mind. If this were not the case, we would never have invented anything. Inventions usually happen when things in reality need fixing, and the mind thinks of a way to conquer that need.

However, when things in reality come into conflict with our cherished beliefs, something called “cognitive dissonance” occurs. And that conflict is never resolved until either reality wins or the cherished belief wins. Lets take an fictional example and break it down....

The Story of Bill & Mary:
Mary loves her husband Bill to whom she has been married for five years. She believes that he is the kindest man she knows. He treats her well, always gives her a kiss before he leaves for work every Monday morning to get on the road as a traveling salesman of car tools. Bill’s real occupation, however, is “high-end car thief” and he has been doing it successfully for seven years without getting caught.

The officer says to Mary, "this man is being arrested for several counts of grand theft auto." Mary thinks that is impossible and immediately decides the officers have the wrong man and pleads with them to let Bill go. Throughout the trial there are videos of Bill stealing cars, evidence of payment to him by undercover police for stolen cars, and evidence of payment to him from another criminal who re-sells the stolen cars. Bank records, phone records, credit card bills, and fingerprints, all point to Bill’s guilt. But Mary refuses to believe it and stands by her husband’s innocence, he was so good to her.

Bill is convicted, all of his assets are seized to repay his victims, and he is sent to prison for 10 years. Mary now has nothing, is working at a local cafeteria to make ends meet, and living with her mother. It takes her an entire year before she starts to believe anything is wrong at all with her husband Bill. Then she begins to discover how dishonest he was in everything he did, she just never paid attention because she believed he was such a good man. Mary's cherished beliefs came in conflict with reality and, for a while, her beliefs won out until the cognitive dissonance was so great she had to let reality win.

While this is an extraordinary fictitious example, these kinds of stories happen every single day in businesses and in households. The reason that this is able to happen is because our minds will do anything to avoid cognitive dissonance happening. And so, as in Mary’s case, the cherished belief will sometimes “win out” over reality.

What does this have to do with accountability?
Due to the fact that you have this ability to make your reality just like your cherished beliefs, you can live in a zone of self-deception in just about anything. You may cherish the belief that your finances are in great shape until you wake up one day in a panic because there is no money left and you are deeply in debt. You may cherish the belief that your job is secure then go in to work one day to find your job has been eliminated. You may cherish the belief that you are in excellent health then go in to get a physical and discover your cholesterol is alarmingly high.

When cherished beliefs come in conflict with reality then cognitive dissonance occurs. So how do you move out of the "zone of self-deception"? You need another person out there watching out for you to make sure you are fulfilling your promises and paying attention to reality. I call this person an accountability partner and this person will act as your “mission control” as you move toward your goals and promises.

If you imagine the course of the space shuttle heading toward its goal of docking with the international space station, you probably think of a straight line. But the process of getting a shuttle from the launch pad to the space station involves a huge amount of power, lots of smart people, a complex curved route, and a massive number of course corrections to hit the target. The space shuttle literally fails its way from the launch pad to the space station.

Think of that route between the launch pad and the space station, and then imagine mission control giving the crew instructions about staying on course every few seconds. If it were all verbal you would hear, “You’re off, go three degrees to the left. Good, now you are on course.” Then, “You’re off, go two degrees to the right. Good, now you are on course.” The shuttle pilots and computers have to literally ADJUST course every moment to make sure they stay on the ORIGINAL course to hit the intended target. And if it were not for mission control telling them how to stay on course, they would never ever make it to their goal of the space station. They would just hurtle out into space and never be seen again.

That can happen to you without the guidance of an accountability partner (your mission control).

Whom do I choose?
I have some suggestions on just what to look for in someone to hold you accountable for your goals and promises. These goals and promises are the ones you create in your seven major areas of life exlained fully in The Quarterly Compass instructions. These are deep promises and this relationship will get deeper as time goes by, especially if you are holding your accountability partner accountable for his/her promises too! This job of accountability partner for you is an extremely important one, so choose carefully. I suggest the following as a guideline:

1) A person you consider honest and trustworthy to not discuss your private promises with others.
2) A person other than your spouse or fiancée / boyfriend / girlfriend. Those in romantic relationships may not be able to be impartial when it comes to the promises you have made about them.
3) A person of the same sex. The kind of promises you are trying to keep may not be appropriate to share with someone of the opposite sex.
4) A person who will be comfortable telling you the truth about what they see. A co-worker, a supervisor or a person whom you supervise may have a very difficult time holding you accountable to these deep promises.
5) A person with whom you are not in competition. This goes without saying.
6) A person whom you respect. (You must act on what mission control says)
7) A person with whom you are "in harmony"

If you have someone you know like this, then you can make him or her your "partner" on the QC at no extra cost to you or your partner. They will get a free partner account where they can view your progress online. If you do not have a person who can do this for you, one of our coaches can fill that need. Just click on the "Coaches" tab at the top to see what this great feature is all about. Or click on this orange tab......COACHES

What do you mean by being "in harmony?"
The definition of being in harmony for our purposes is; two (or more) people working together with an agreed upon plan or purpose to make positive progress. Having two or more minds working together in harmony multiplies exponentially the effectiveness and the power of those minds. I am serious when I say “multiplies exponentially” because the combination of minds that are in harmony is not a simple addition of one to another, it is an exponential multiplication of mind power that is available to solve problems, create new ideas, create positive outcomes, and to renew the mind.

Incidentally, harmony is having an "agreed upon plan or purpose to make positive progress", but it does not mean there is no disagreement and no consideration of alternative ideas. Harmony is attained with both of the minds in an accountability partnership concentrating effort, challenging one another, and working collaboratively toward a definite positive end. Since beginning work with my accountability partner in 1997 I have been able to solve problems that I never could solve on my own, which has allowed me to open three additional, profitable companies with the knowledge that I gained from this alliance.

What do you do in the meeting? How long should we meet?

The primary focus of having an accountability partner is for the partners to help one another reach his/her Definite Major Purpose. Meeting once a week to look over each other’s Quarterly Compass™, encourage one another, and give honest feedback about progress is important. If your accountability partner is not available to physically meet each week, you will want to make it a telephone appointment, use an online video conferencing (like Skype or Oovoo), e-mail, and of course use the powerful online tool the Quarterly Compass™. (With the QC you can easily send your accountability partner access to a free account to, view, and give opinions about your progress).

The meeting should last only as long as needed to check progress, and give feedback. My accountability partner and I meet on Friday mornings to go over our progress. We treat it as an important appointment and don’t schedule anything else over top of it. However, if we absolutely cannot meet at the appointed time, we find 15 minutes to meet on a video chat to go over the Quarterly Compass™ online. He can go online anytime and check my progress, make comments, encourgage me, or jump on my case for failing to stay on track. I have been doing this for years and it has been incredible to see the following results this commitment has produced.

The Results Of Accountability.

Before we started meeting, I worked 70 to 80 hours per week, spent very little time with my children, had minimal plans for the future, and was constantly worried sick about money. But the powerful combination of the accountability of another person, along with the tracking of progress on The Quarterly Compass™ has put me on a direct course to my destination of my Definite Major Purpose. You will see in the last chapter of this book how my life has changed as the result of accountability.

Can you think of a person right now who would be a great accountability partner? If so, it would be a good idea to call him or her right now and get yourself a real live accountability partner. Tell him or her the story of needing a "mission control" for getting your life to its destination, and that it will take about 15 minutes a week, and show him or her the QC website. This is a crucial action point, don't miss it.

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